There are three words that come to mind when I think about individual therapy:
One of the primary reasons for seeking therapy, whether spoken or unspoken, is a lack of freedom. We desire to feel good and be at peace on the inside and empowered to reach our potential on the outside. That’s why anxiety, depression and addictive behaviors, to name a few, are so devastating. They attack our ability to enjoy life and prevent us from reaching our potential.
One of my favorite quotes is by St. Irenaeus of Lyons, “The glory of God is the human person fully alive.” We have a natural desire and drive to experience aliveness. Yet, most of us don’t feel fully alive and we’re at a loss on how to cultivate it. Not infrequently, bad habits and addictive behaviors, in part, are the person’s attempt to experience aliveness. The individual’s pursuit of pleasure or the momentary adrenaline rush becomes an artificial (and destructive) substitute for an important need: to feel alive. One of my therapeutic goals is to help clients develop a life structure that generates a healthy aliveness that lasts.
The word truthfulness also comes to mind because personal growth and healing requires being honest with oneself and with others. In my work with clients, I try to create a safe, nonjudgmental environment where people are free to express their authentic thoughts & feelings and examine self and life with openness and honesty . There is an emphasis on speaking the truth in love.